3 Steps to Start Using Sex Magick to Manifest Your Deepest Desires
There are many different ways to manifest your desires in this world. You can pull energy from the earth, the moon, the universal source, and within ourselves. You can also technically pull it from others however, I don’t recommend that because then you’d just be another energy vampire strutting around. And we don't need anymore of those. In my opinion, the most fun manifestation method is sex magick. Our magical juices are some of the most potent forms of energy to create and manifest. There’s a reason why, in some spiritual practices like voodoo, you use hair, fingernail clippings, and other body bits and juices to strengthen the power of your magickal workings. (And no, voodoo is not evil. Like any spiritual path, it can be used for darker purposes, but most of the time, people just try to improve their lives with it.) The closer this bodily fluid is to your center, the more potent it is. That’s why it’s believed that sexual juices and blood are some of the most powerful things or offerings you can use in magick. Now, let’s get to the fun part.
Step One - Are You Doing this Solo or With a Partner?
First, you need to figure out if you want to do sex magick with a partner or if you want to do it alone. You can do all of this on your own with masturbation. Hooray for sexual independence and pleasure!
If you have a partner, talk with them about it and what you’d like to try and manifest into your lives. If you don’t feel comfortable telling your partner about this, you don’t necessarily have to. You could just do it within your own mind; however, it’s much more powerful if two minds are focused on the same outcome.
Step Two - Set up Your Sacred Space
No matter if you’re solo or getting down with a friend, you’ll still need to set up your sacred space. The power is within us, so you can keep it super simple, but if you have the time and want to get a little witchy, you can include a candle, music, and some incense. It doesn’t have to be fancy, though. Some ways to create a super sensual and enticing space:
Lay on a luxurious blanket of silks or furs
Light a candle or incense (I love ylang ylang, jasmine, and rose scents)
Light a fireplace if you have one
Put on some music that’s not too distracting
Turn off the lights or dim them to create calm and relaxation (Or, keep them on full blast if that’s your style. No shame!)
Maybe have a picture or video of the life or outcome you’re trying to manifest
Always cleanse the space before and after. Before, I might use something like sweetgrass or palo santo. This can raise the vibrations and attract sweet things into your life. Be mindful of using sweetgrass since it is now a threatened or endangered species in some areas. If you buy it, buy it from a shop that sources it ethically and sustainably. After the sex magick ritual, I might use palo santo, sage, cedar, or pine to cleanse out any energetic gunk. You can use whatever feels right to you.
Step Three - Doing the Deed
If you’re doing this solo, you need to try and go as slow as possible, really allow yourself to fall into your body, and visualize having that which you desire. While pleasuring your sexy bits, envision yourself relishing what you’re trying to attract in this life. It could be money, a better job, romance, a baby, etc. Whatever it is, envision yourself happy and enjoying this person, situation, or thing you want. Try to stay as focused on these visuals as you can. If you don’t have a ton of practice with visualization and meditation exercises, it might be a bit difficult for you to stay on track. However, keep trying. Build up the swelling energy inside you and let it build as much as possible before you release it. Take as long as you possibly can because the longer you let this focused energy build up, the stronger the message will be sent out into the universe when you finally release it.
If you’re doing this with a buddy, you can tell them about what you’re trying to do so you can both visualize the same outcome. Or, you can visualize on your own. Whatever you’re most comfortable with, do that. I will say it’s much more powerful if you’re both involved, though. The manifestation power will be doubled when released. If your partner is on board, once again, take as long as possible to allow the energy to build within you both before release. If you’re keeping this a secret from your partner, communicate with them beforehand that you want to take your time and enjoy the experience. Slow them down with foreplay as much as you can. But, like I said, if you can both be on the same page, it’s a much better outcome.
Once finished, completely stop thinking about it. The thoughts and wishes have been sent out into the universe, and now you must cut the tether from your mind so that the universe can do its work.
Fun Activities to Do Afterwards
Grounding after sex magick is vital. I know I’m always rambling on about grounding, but it is absolutely necessary for any magick work or energy healing. A good way to do this can be to eat and drink, sleep, cuddle with your fur baby, or do any other activity that helps ground your energy.
Other fun activities after the ritual could include chatting with your partner (if you had one) about your experiences, watching a movie, cuddling, or reading a tarot card. The world is your oyster. Enjoy!
What to Do if you Have a Hard Time Visualizing and Staying Focused
Staying focused and visualizing during any meditative practice can be difficult if you’ve never done it or you don’t do it often. It’s like a muscle; if you don’t use it, it will weaken. If you find during your sex magick ritual your mind is drifting or you’re getting distracted, try practicing visualization exercises beforehand for a few days or weeks. Get comfortable thinking of one thing for a long period of time. If you like, you can find some guided visualization meditations on YouTube for practice as well. Practicing this simple thing will elevate your sex magick powers exponentially.
Final Thoughts
In the end, the most important thing is that you enjoy yourself. When doing it with a partner, it can be a lovely way to connect more deeply with them. When doing it solo, it can be a lovely way to connect with yourself. Savor these moments, and then watch your manifestations come to fruition over time.
Remember, it might take some time, and it might take a few tries too. I wish you luck, ecstasy, and wonderful orgasms in your sexual magick adventures. Happy manifesting, friends!