Why Your Manifestations Fail: Unveiling the Missing Pieces
Manifesting abundance and success is a popular topic I have noticed popping up everywhere. I see it on social media, on bookshelves, and on t-shirts. It’s beautiful that more and more people are becoming aware of this technique to bring abundance into their lives. However, it saddens me that they’re not getting the full instruction booklet. Let’s dive a little deeper into this topic because I want more than anything for you to understand and truly learn how to connect to this power. Because, at the end of the day, we all deserve to access it. It’s a power within us, and it’s only fair that we each get a piece of the pie.
For years, I have practiced many different forms of witchcraft and spiritual paths. I’m also a level three reiki master. While taking the golden nuggets of truth from all of these learnings, the main connection I see between them is the manipulation of energy. We are all made of energy, and therefore, we can manipulate and transform this energy as we need it. We can do this across time, space, and dimensions. I know it sounds a little woo-woo, but it isn’t. Once you learn to feel and understand how energy works, you can truly learn to use it to aid you in attaining your desires.
Now, to be clear, I don’t have all of the answers, and I most likely never will in this lifetime. I know what I know only through the lens of my experiences. But I do know that I will continue to strive in this life to learn as much as I can. And by continuously staying open to learning more and evolving during the process, it can only get better.
If you have tried different manifesting techniques, abundance spells, journaling, or anything else along those lines and you haven’t noticed a major change in your life, it’s because you aren’t doing the groundwork within yourself. Maybe you feel stuck in a loop where things might go a little well, the universe throws you a bone, and then something horrible happens to cause major upheaval in your life, and you take a massive step backward. This could be job loss, the loss of a loved one, the loss of a house or business, or going through a divorce. Whatever happened, you feel like you can’t get a break. Let’s explore some reasons why this may be the case.
The Roadblocks to Manifestation and Spellwork
Common obstacles that might hinder the effectiveness of your manifestations and spellwork include challenges with:
Energy Balance
Being ungrounded
Indecisiveness
Self-doubt
Emotional Balance
Neglecting your shadow bits (self-reflecting on your triggers and toxic behavior patterns)
Not checking your ego
Suppressing your emotions
Cleansing
Stagnant energy within yourself and your space
When you’re not honest and in alignment with yourself, how do you expect the universe to have your back and truly be able to guide you? You will have what you’re meant to have IF you do the inner work and nurture your connection with your higher self.
The Importance of Energy Balance
When your energy is consistently nurtured, grounded, and balanced, you start developing more clarity and confidence. These are the beginning stages of tapping into your inner power. After weeks of forgetting this basic concept, my mind will start to fall into what I like to call a 3D mindset.
What’s a 3D mindset?
This is when you start falling into a scarcity mindset. When you’re stuck here, you will:
Stop trusting people
Seeing the world as a glass half-full
Feeling like the world is against you
Thinking people are trying to take from you
Feeling like there’s never enough
Feel stagnant
When you nurture your body, mind, and spirit, you start spiraling upwards into more of a 5D mindset.
What’s a 5D mindset?
This is when you start feeling those tickles of hope. When you attain this, you will:
Feel whole
Trust people
Know intuitively what decisions to make
Have complete clarity on your goals and how to get there
Feel a constant source of abundance and a deep inner knowing that you’re safe and guided by the universe
When your outer, inner, and environmental energy is in balance, you can start tapping into that aligned universal energy that is there for all of us. We all have access to it, and there is immense abundance. So, start slowing down, meditating, and ground every single day. Even if it’s just while you shower or do the dishes, find a way to wiggle these practices into your daily life, even if only for 5-10 minutes.
Taming the Ego and Clearing Emotional Clutter
First, let’s explain shadow work. Shadow work is when you not only face your fears, insecurities, and emotional triggers through self-reflection but you start to integrate them into your everyday life. You learn to sit with them and allow them to take space within your body, heart, and mind, but you no longer allow them to take over. Once you learn to do this, you can start using this interconnected balance of energy as fuel for what you want to attract into your life. You eventually get to a place where your shadow bits are no longer steering the ship. Let’s talk about one of the more common aspects of shadow work: our ego.
Ego mind can and will take over if you let it. When someone says something that bothers you, and you immediately respond angrily or rudely to hurt that person, that’s ego. When someone tries to explain something to you, and you immediately get offended, that’s ego. When you replay a conversation or argument repeatedly in your head because you wish you would’ve said something different, and you know you could’ve won that argument, that’s ego. Let me tell you, I have been there, and it is not pretty. My ego has hijacked my mind before, and it’s never pretty. If you don’t stop to reflect before you respond, you can do some major damage to your relationships.
Now, your spirit mind can take over, too. When this happens, we get caught up in the free-flow vibes of life. We can become imbalanced, dismissive, and disconnected when the spirit mind takes over. It’s just a different style of takeover. In this mind, we are not necessarily trying to hurt anybody; we get so wrapped up in our minds and become daydreamy that we forget to come back down to reality and, well, take care of human life things.
If either mindset overpowers the other, it’s never good and can cause disruptions in your life.
Let’s be honest, though: most of us struggle with our ego in today's world. Throughout every single day, I am constantly checking in with my ego. Whenever I start feeling an immediate reaction creeping up within me, I always try to stop, observe that emotion, and understand where it’s coming from BEFORE I react or respond. It’s difficult, and I have not always made the best choices. After all, I’m still human. But, I will say that the more I practice this simple technique, the stronger that muscle gets and the more automatic it becomes.
Liken it to learning a dance or martial art, the more you do it, the more natural it becomes and the less you have to think about it. You’re building muscle memory and increasing neuroplasticity. What does this have to do with manifesting and magick, you ask? Well, when you practice this simple technique every day, you will eventually start freeing up space in your mind and can start channeling excess energy towards your goals and what you want to manifest in this life. When your energy is not gobbled up by negative thoughts and regrets, you have more energy to fuel your destiny.
Energy Cleansing
Keeping your energetic body and space cleansed is vital for manifesting. We have external energy fields and internal energy fields. You also have to consider the environmental or spatial energy. This means that we can keep our energy fields for our body and mind cleansed, but if our house is constantly cluttered and messy (or vice versa), there will be an imbalance. It could make it hard to find alignment.
When we have internal energetic blockages, our energy becomes dense within us, and we may feel foggy, have digestion issues, or develop emotional imbalances. When our space is cluttered and not consistently cleansed with sage, palo santo, cedar, pine, or whatever method you prefer, energy can build up in parts of our house and become stagnant. This stuck energy can start attracting or transforming into negative energy. This can manifest in more arguments with your partner or, once again, a cluttered and foggy mind.
Herbal baths, burning herbs, mopping with herb-infused water, or even lightly flicking vinegar or holy water throughout your house are all amazing ways to rebalance the energy within your home.
Cultivating an Abundance Mindset
You’ve made it! After all of that internal work, we can now start tapping into our 5D abundance mindset. Our emotional body is clear, our mental body is clear, our space is clear, and we’ve done some shadow work. Now, it’s time to get into the magick.
Some fun ways to do this are:
Start and end each day with gratitude. Out loud, thank the universe, your guardian angels, spirit guides, reiki guides, and whoever you connect with; thank them deeply and intentionally. Let them know you want to connect on a deeper level and that you are grateful for all the guidance they have provided you thus far.
Set up a little altar in your house to attract whatever it is you’re seeking. It’s best if it’s in a place that you walk by often so that you are constantly reminded of what you are attracting. For example, if it’s love, create an altar with roses, a romantic letter to your soulmate, and a pink or red candle. Light this candle every day. If you want to attract more money, decorate it with golden flowers, maybe a little jar or dish of coins, and a goddess statue that you relate to abundance. Maybe you add a picture of someone who inspires you to reach these goals.
Wear jewelry that makes you feel luxurious or perhaps with stones that attract abundance in whatever part of your life you want more.
Wear perfumes and burn candles with scents that make you feel luxurious or take you away to distant lands.
When you’re in the shower, take a few short minutes to close your eyes and envision yourself already having and enjoying what you desire. See yourself in that success.
As you start to incorporate any of the above routines into your daily life, the energy in your life will start to balance. You will become a magnet for abundance, success, and happiness. At first, it might just be small shifts, like someone randomly doing something nice for you, or you start making genuine connections with people you meet. Or, maybe some financial issues you thought were headed your way aren’t as bad as you thought. Whatever it is, you will start to feel that power shift within and around you. Jump on the wave and ride it for as long as you can. There will come a time when things slow down, and that’s okay. Become comfortable flowing with the energy around you and maximizing the outcome with what you are given. Start seeing everything as an opportunity.
Final Thoughts
First and foremost, be kind and compassionate with yourself. We are human, and life can be hard. Forgive yourself when you mess up. Maybe you don’t always choose the high road. That’s OK. As long as you realize that it wasn’t serving your highest self and you work towards being 1% better each day, you’re doing it right. When I choose to react in an unhealthy way, the first emotion I start dealing with is the shame and guilt of failing my higher self. The first thing I try to do is mend whatever I can within me; then, I move on to healing the connection with anyone I may have wronged. Usually, I sit down and have a vulnerable and honest heart-to-heart with the person I hurt. Sometimes, if I don’t have that option, I must heal the wound alone. No matter what, I approach these failings with full compassion and forgiveness for myself. If I don’t start there, I’ll be too wrapped up in my own guilt and shame, and then I won’t be able to hold a safe space for the other person. So, always start with yourself.
Remember, first, balance your energy, reflect on your shadow bits, and cleanse emotional clutter. Then, you get to play in magick. You can’t be the all-powerful wizard until you’ve weathered through the first steps. Gandalf didn’t get wise and magical by constantly dwelling on all the times people wronged him and how unfair life is. And neither can we.
I’m so excited for you to try some of these methods and see your life change bit by bit. We all have a right to feel this magick. Energy is abundant everywhere and in everything. It gets really fun when you can start transmuting negative, dense energy into fuel that you can channel into things like your career, family, romantic relationships, and so much more. My magickal friends, this is just the first layer. You can go as deep as you want in this life but the enchantment is always there. Happy manifesting!
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